Tacha Sparks Outrage with Advice for Women: ‘Don’t Date Just One Man—You Need 3 Other Boyfriends’
Big Brother Naija alumni and media personality Natacha Akide, known as Tacha, has ignited a firestorm of controversy after sharing bold dating advice during a recent podcast appearance. In a clip from the “Outside the Box” podcast hosted by Femi Cool FM, which has since gone viral on X (formerly Twitter), Tacha urged women to juggle multiple romantic partners, stating, “Don’t be out there dating just one man. You need 3 other boyfriends in your life.”
The 30-year-old influencer, who rose to fame on the 2019 season of the popular reality show, elaborated that women should always present themselves as “single” until marriage, regardless of their relationship status. “Every lady should be single until they’re actually married. It doesn’t matter if you’re in a relationship, 3 relationships or more. Even if a guy proposes to you, keep telling other guys you’re single till your wedding day,” she said in the interview. Tacha argued that men “move on very easily,” so women shouldn’t “tie themselves down” or turn away potential suitors, warning against letting a boyfriend “stop you from meeting your husband.” She positioned the advice as empowerment, claiming it’s foolish for women to commit fully without reciprocity.
The remarks, shared widely on social media platforms, have divided audiences. As of Saturday, the clip has garnered over 140,000 views on X alone, with users reposting it more than 50 times in the past two days. Supporters praised Tacha for her unfiltered take on modern dating dynamics, with one X user commenting, “I like this talk. It doesn’t matter if you’re in a relationship or not, guys we’re all single.” Others echoed her sentiments, viewing it as a call for women to prioritize self-protection in an era of fleeting commitments.
However, the backlash has been swift and intense. Critics, including relationship experts and netizens, have slammed the advice as promoting infidelity, emotional manipulation, and unrealistic expectations. “If guys say and do this now, u go say e dey cheat on u o! But Tacha should only give advise when she don conclude relationship into marriage sha,” one commenter wrote on X, highlighting perceived double standards. Another user labeled it “future mother” advice gone wrong, questioning its impact on young women: “Behold, someone’s future mother to other ladies. ‘Be Single, till you are married, you can even be in two or three relationships – Tacha.’” Comparisons have been drawn to Tacha’s past controversial statements, such as a 2019 video resurfacing where she expressed a preference for “married men” over younger partners for their stability and generosity.
Tacha, who has built a brand around empowerment and entrepreneurship since leaving BBNaija, has not yet responded to the uproar. In a January 2024 interview, she admitted to being single herself, citing a lack of “ideal” partners and advising women to “juggle men” without over-niceness. This latest comment fits her pattern of provocative takes on relationships, often aimed at her largely female fanbase.
Social media analyst and gender studies expert Dr. Aisha Bello commented to Legit.ng, “Tacha’s advice taps into frustrations with unequal dating norms but risks normalizing dishonesty. True empowerment comes from clear communication, not secrecy.” The debate has trended under hashtags like #TachaDatingAdvice and #SingleTillMarried, amplifying discussions on fidelity, gender roles, and the pressures of Nigerian dating culture.
As the conversation rages online, Tacha’s words serve as a mirror to broader societal tensions around love, commitment, and independence. Whether seen as revolutionary or reckless, her unapologetic style continues to make her a polarizing figure in entertainment.